DAY THIRTEEN! 30 Days of Empowering Choice

Good morning :)

So we talked about changing the context in two examples, that I would say are quite similar. I want to clarify that changing the context can also help when you are doing something you really don’t want to do. In my personal examples, as much as I had moments of fear - speaking with a significant other and dancing are both things I want to do, so it makes sense to choose it powerfully. 


But there are also instances where we are in situations we don’t want to be in, but for whatever reason we are doing it for some value that we are standing for (like making money, or doing a favor for a friend, or committing to our word even though we changed our mind, etc). My favorite example is one I keep hearing: you are at a job you don’t like. Ok so let’s say, you did the fear test, you saw that for whatever reason, you just cannot rationalize leaving your current job. Perhaps it is just not worth the risk for you, and that’s totally ok. (Remember, this stuff is not about crushing your fears. You don’t have to be an adrenaline junkie. It’s just useful to be mindful of when and how fear rules you, so you can maintain power in your life!). So you’re stuck at this job, for now, for whatever reasons or feelings you have. But perhaps you’re still showing up like it’s the worst thing in the world. Complaints are running through your head all day. You get easily annoyed at others, or frustrated with yourself for not really putting your best foot forward. 


Here’s another beautiful chance to change the context. Currently, the context is something like “I HAVE to be here, I have no other option. Let me just get through today.” This option leaves you powerless, a victim of your circumstances, like you are held hostage at a place you choose to work at! So perhaps it could change to something like, “I choose to be here for now. I am grateful for this space to comfortably make the money I need, to further develop my skills so that when I am ready to leave, I am safe, confident, and complete.” 


Often, a change like this opens the door to powerful decisions. Once we change the context (however we had to get there), the actions are likely to follow more naturally. 


Where do you see your context affecting your actions? The ones you want to do, and the ones you don’t? Perhaps there’s some more work on the back end, but what would it take to free yourself from that negative filter, and live in the positive one? 



With love,