You guys! We only have one day left! :’(
Thank you for being here along this journey. I’ve enjoyed this so much, that I plan to continue in some way. I will confirm with more details tomorrow.
Here’s a little recap of what we discussed, and I’d encourage you to go back through the emails or click here to see the up-to-date blog! It includes everything we talked about, and I’ll keep adding to it.
So we started with simply looking at the ways in which fear rules our lives. Those moments where we don’t sit down and do the work because we are subtly afraid it won’t be good enough. The moments of deciding to stay quiet, when speaking up is really what you want/need to do, for fear of what people will think of you. The bigger, longer lasting decisions of taking an awful job for fear of not making enough money, or for staying in a relationship for fear of being alone. Let’s revisit this - what have you learned from it? What role does fear play in your life currently? Remember, we have to be willing to see this part to move forward. Be willing to look at your fears, they won’t hurt you by looking - in fact, that will free you.
We practiced my favorite exercise of finding them: when making a decision, look at your resistance to each choice. Often, you will find fear hiding in one side. Be sure to keep an eye out for defenses/excuses that are trying to mask your fear in a value - we are sneaky with ourselves.
As we moved into the next chapter - moving from faith. Sometimes this is as simple as seeing the fear, deciding not to feed into it, and 5-4-3-2-1 (or your version of that) BOOM make the decision and just go for fear. Sometimes this gets complicated a little bit - we tend to actually be attached to our fears. We sometimes even identify with them as a part of who we are, so we have a hard time letting them go, not just because it’s scary, but because they are the only way we know how to live. Other times, we simply need to switch the context. As in - no change in action, no forcing through your fear, but simply deciding to be in a faithful mindset. To speak and act from an empowering place. To remind yourself why you are doing what you are doing, and to have faith in that.
In order to do any of this, you have to be not only willing to see the truth, but be willing to accept it. And that’s often the part that’s hard. Those inauthentic fears, could be true. It’s not worth worrying about them, but accepting that they could happen is a huge step. Accepting that the person you love is really not who you expected them to be, is a huge step. Accepting that you are not where you want yourself to be, is a huge step. Remember, acceptance is NOT complacency; rather, it is the beginning of true growth.
Lastly, why are we doing all of this? Why does is matter? Fear is here to protect us, why not let it protect? To me, it is about your power and agency over your life. Fear has you sort of a victim of your circumstances. It has you wait around until life decides your fate. It has you blame and credit everything outside of yourself for your successes and failures. But when we do that, we miss out on what it means to be human: to authentically connect with people, to choose what our life looks like, to create an environment and a mental space that we love.
Empower yourself to see yourself. To love yourself. To create yourself. Get excited about it! I know I am :D.
With love and gratitude for you all,