Some things you should know about me, and some guidelines for engagement here.

(From instagram)

Some things you should know about me, and some guidelines for engagement here.

I share what is deeply on my heart in this space.

I used to plan out posts, and push myself to post stories and insights.
I don’t do that anymore.
I simply write when it bursts out of me.
I usually write it in one draft, read through it, and then hit post.
It is present, and honest to the moment.

I used to make sure my writing included every possible viewpoint so no one felt left out reading it.
I don’t do that anymore.
I simply write what is true for me in the moment.
Which means, by default, in NO WAY is it going to include everyone’s perspective or experience.
That doesn’t mean I don’t think about them.

I used to explain myself, to make sure you understood my point.
I don’t do that anymore.
Sometimes I don’t even have a point.
I simply write what comes through me, from a place of deeper knowing.

People often ask me, “are you okay? I’m worried about you.”
I used to get defensive to that.
It hurt me that they were seeing me as small, or wounded, or incapable in some way.
It doesn’t hurt me anymore.
It’s just not about me.

If you see something I write and you feel the need to worry about ME, that has nothing to do with me.
That is for you to sit with.
What is it about what I said that worried you? And what about that thing do you see in yourself?

Sometimes, I get sort of fake support like, “yes Jessie you need to just be one with yourself and learn to love yourself,” or some other back handed way of giving support.
But if you feel the need to tell me how to handle what I just shared about, you’ve missed it.
And again, that’s not about me.

I have designated people in my life who I either pay, or trust deeply to help guide me when I need it.
I do not come to the internet for that.
No matter who you are, or have been, in my life,
Instagram is not the place to give me (or anyone for that matter) advice.
And if you are giving advice on instagram, ask yourself, “why is it that I feel the need to give someone unsolicited guidance right now?”
Perhaps you can listen to that urge, and feel into where it’s coming from for you.
Again, that’s not about me.

In this space,
I share about my experiences, and discoveries, and unfoldings.
Often, my students/friends read these shares, and they resonate.
They learn from my process.
Not because it’s their process, but because they can see bits of it in themselves.

If that is the case for you - amazing. Enjoy. And feel free to reflect that to me, I love to hear that.

But if you are getting triggered, or want to tell me how to do something better or differently,
That’s either for you to sit with in yourself,
Or
That’s the perfect moment to unfollow.

I love you.